To begin, the topic of this week’s discussion spurred an interest in me to really think about what it means to be controversial and why something may be considered controversial. According to dictionary.com, the definition of controversial is “of, relating to, or arousing controversy” and the definition of a controversy is “a discussion marked especially by the expression of opposing views”. After reading these definitions I began to think about what makes something controversial.
I am able to see where much of the controversy occurs when discussing educating our students on gay rights and gay culture. Much of the controversy lies in religion. However, I feel that there is something more to the controversy than a religious belief. I feel that people are afraid of change and acceptance. But let’s face it, as a society our population is growing and evolving by the day. The results of these changes are new differences that we must adapt to, accept, respect and teach. I feel that much of what makes something controversial is fear. For example, at one time it was controversial to see a man and woman sleeping in the same bed on TV or even to say the word pregnant (I Love Lucy), now nearly no one bats an eye when a television show displays a master bedroom with only one bed or at a lead character giving birth as the basis of an entire episode (Up All Night). Clearly, over time and through exposure the concept of a married couple sleeping in the same bed, and the thought of woman possibly becoming pregnant is far less controversial than it used to be. What used to be scary and taboo is no longer. As Kyle mentioned in his opening blog, we are seeing more and more representations of the gay community on TV as well. I celebrate this fact. I feel that by representing the gay community on TV we are welcoming the idea of change and acceptance and offering a venue for exposure to the unknown for some people. These programs are a sign of the times changing and with that said, it is a sign of the time for us as educators to recognize and incorporate these changes into our lessons.
I believe that curriculum should address controversial issues beginning at a very early age. For example, this year I have come across several meaningful learning opportunities with one of my kindergarten groups. In one of my kindergarten groups I have a student that I will call Johnnie. For Halloween, Johnnie chose to dress up as a princess. I am unsure if he wore this when he was out Trick-or-Treating, but he did wear his princess costume for the school party. Previous to Halloween I heard Johnnie discussing with other boys and girls about playing with dolls. In one instance I heard the tail end of a conversation between the kindergarten classroom teacher, Johnnie and two or three other boys and girls. The children were saying that Johnnie plays with girl toys. The classroom teacher took this as an opportunity to explain to the children that there is no such thing as girl toys or boy toys. That it is ok for boys to play with dolls and girls to play with trucks. After that very brief discussion the topic has not arisen again. At such a young age the curious (and potentially hurtful) children were able to accept what they had learned and this prevented any further hurt feelings regarding this circumstance and also subconsciously expanded their tolerance. This is not to say that their curiosity and questions will never surface again, but it was a perfect moment for learning about a controversial subject that made an impact on their young lives. No innocence was trampled on and childhood was preserved as something special. The student’s curiosity was answered, and a lesson was learned.
Johnnie’s experience is only a small example of how we, as educators, can introduce and teach our students about different lifestyles they may not be familiar with. And to also include the boys and girls who come from families with two moms or two dads, or students who practice “non-traditional” lifestyles themselves. By introducing the proper guidance, lessons and tools from an early age we can help promote tolerance and hopefully diminish the amount of bullying and in turn save lives. As stated in the article In Efforts to End Bullying, Some See Agenda, “Many educators and rights advocates say that official prohibitions of slurs and taunts are most effective when combined with frank discussions, from kindergarten on, about diverse families and sexuality.”
However, even though I am all for addressing controversial subjects through the curriculum, I do not feel that I am prepared to do so. I feel that I would benefit from attending workshops that address the issue of how to teach controversial topics, and how to respond to parents when I am questioned. There is much to be learned in the classroom about controversial topics in order to expand our students mind and increase their levels of tolerance, but this can be accomplished only after the educators are taught how to do so properly.
Resources:
This article, entitled 10 TV Shows That Pushed The Envelop, lists 10 shows that incorporated seemingly controversial aspects in their program (e.g. the first biracial kiss between characters)
This blog, entitled Oh No They Didn’t!, discusses the evolution of TV love, relationships and romance from the 1950s through the 2000s and how our acceptance has changed throughout the years.
http://ohnotheydidnt.livejournal.com/28782829.html
http://ohnotheydidnt.livejournal.com/28782829.html
This website is a resource to help teach and incorporate tolerance into our curriculum. There are many different areas where tolerance can be taught- Size, weight, hair, race, linguistics, religion etc- This website offers different ideas and lessons to be used in the classroom.
This parenting article discusses the importance of fostering your child’s tolerance for others. It even describes a similar circumstance regarding boy’s toys and girl’s toys that I described early in this blog.
This website is a resource for tolerance lesson plans and activities. In addition to tolerance lesson plans and activities there is also an intolerance lesson plan. I thought that this was an interesting concept. The intolerance lesson plan shows how destructive it can be to be intolerant.